Dès les petites classes, les garçons désinvestissent l´école tandis que les filles réussissent plutôt bien en prenant de nouveaux risques. Que se passe-t-il ? La réalité est là, nier les différences entre les sexes n´a permis ni aux garçons de devenir infirmiers, ni aux filles de devenir ingénieures. Le Dr Sax montre, études et chiffres à l´appui, que fournir une éducation identique dans sa forme aux garçons et aux filles ne permet pas l´égalité. Ce n´est pourtant pas inéluctable ! L´auteur propose des stratégies pour que les garçons fans de foot et de jeux vidéo puissent adorer aussi le français et l´histoire-géo. Et pour que les filles qui passent leur temps sur Facebook ou à regarder des séries américaines puissent aussi aimer et réussir dans les sciences physiques. L´ordinateur entre différemment dans l´existence des garçons et des filles, avec des risques divers. Pour quelles raisons nos fils sont rivés à leur console tandis que nos filles postent leurs photos sur les réseaux sociaux. Les perturbateurs endocriniens présents dans l´environnement, non seulement bouleversent le passage à la puberté, mais ont une incidence sur la motivation, augmentant celle des filles, et faisant baisser celle des garçons.Un livre qui interpelle et nous met face aux questions que nous avons à nous poser pour permettre à nos enfants de se construire une identité solide.Traduit de l´anglais par Isabelle Crouzet
@90@In @18@The Collapse of Parenting@19@, physician, psychologist, and internationally acclaimed author Leonard Sax presents data documenting a dramatic decline in the achievement and psychological health of American children. Sax argues that rising levels of obesity, depression, and anxiety among young people@95@#151;as well as the explosion in prescribing psychiatric medications to kids@95@#151;can all be traced to parents letting their kids call the shots.@16@ @95@#160;@16@ Many parents are afraid of seeming too dictatorial and end up abdicating their authority rather than taking a stand with their own children. If kids refuse to eat anything green and demand pizza instead, some parents give in, inadvertently raising children who are more likely to become obese. If children are given smartphones and allowed to spend the bulk of their free time texting, playing video games, and surfing the Internet, they become increasingly reliant on peers and the media for guidance on how to live, rather than getting such guidance at home. And if they won@95@#39;t sit still in class or listen to adults, they@95@#39;re often prescribed medication, a quick fix that actually undermines their self-control. In short, Sax argues, parents are failing to prioritize the parent-child relationship and are allowing a child-peer dynamic to take precedence. The result is children who have no absolute standard of right and wrong, who lack discipline, and who look to their peers and the Internet for direction, instead of looking to their parents.@16@ @95@#160;@16@ But there is hope. Sax shows how parents can help their kids by reasserting their authority@95@#151;by limiting time with screens, by encouraging better habits at the dinner table and at bedtime, and by teaching humility and perspective. Drawing on more than twenty-five years of experience as a family physician and psychologist, along with hundreds of interviews with children, parents, and teachers across the United States and around the world, Sax offers a blueprint parents can use to refresh and renew their relationships with their children to help their children thrive in an increasingly complicated world.@16@@91@
Are boys and girls really that different? Twenty years ago, doctors and researchers didn't think so. Back then, most experts believed that differences in how girls and boys behave are mainly due to differences in how they were treated by their parents, teachers, and friends.
It's hard to cling to that belief today. An avalanche of research over the past twenty years has shown that sex differences are more significant and profound than anybody guessed. Sex differences are real, biologically programmed, and important to how children are raised, disciplined, and educated.
In Why Gender Matters, psychologist and family physician Dr. Leonard Sax leads parents through the mystifying world of gender differences by explaining the biologically different ways in which children think, feel, and act. He addresses a host of issues, including discipline, learning, risk taking, aggression, sex, and drugs, and shows how boys and girls react in predictable ways to different situations.
For example, girls are born with more sensitive hearing than boys, and those differences increase as kids grow up. So when a grown man speaks to a girl in what he thinks is a normal voice, she may hear it as yelling. Conversely, boys who appear to be inattentive in class may just be sitting too far away to hear the teacher--especially if the teacher is female.
Likewise, negative emotions are seated in an ancient structure of the brain called the amygdala. Girls develop an early connecion between this area and the cerebral cortex, enabling them to talk about their feelings. In boys these links develop later. So if you ask a troubled adolescent boy to tell you what his feelings are, he often literally cannot say.
Dr. Sax offers fresh approaches to disciplining children, as well as gender-specific ways to help girls and boys avoid drugs and early sexual activity. He wants parents to understand and work with hardwired differences in children, but he also encourages them to push beyond gender-based stereotypes.
A leading proponent of single-sex education, Dr. Sax points out specific instances where keeping boys and girls separate in the classroom has yielded striking educational, social, and interpersonal benefits. Despite the view of many educators and experts on child-rearing that sex differences should be ignored or overcome, parents and teachers would do better to recognize, understand, and make use of the biological differences that make a girl a girl, and a boy a boy.
A revised and updated edition (with more than 70% new material) of the evergreen classic about the innate differences between boys and girls and how best to parent and teach girls and boys successfully, with completely new chapters on sexual orientation and on transgender and intersex kids.
Eleven years ago, Why Gender Matters broke ground in illuminating the differences between boys and girls--how they perceive the world differently, how they learn differently, how they process emotions and take risks differently. Dr. Sax argued that in failing to recognize these hardwired differences between boys and girls, we ended up reinforcing damaging stereotypes, medicalizing normal behavior (see: the rising rates of ADHD diagnosis), and failing to support kids to reach their full potential. In the intervening decade, the world has changed drastically, with an avalanche of new research which supports, deepens, and expands Dr. Sax's work. This revised and updated edition includes new findings about how boys and girls interact differently with social media and video games; a completely new discussion of research on gender non-conforming, LGB, and transgender kids, new findings about how girls and boys see differently, hear differently, and even smell differently; and new material about the medicalization of bad behavior.